Do you know that there are five languages of parental love?25 October
Parental love, like any other love, has different manifestations. You can love your child immensely, but the main thing is not whatyou are feeling in relation to him, but what he feels, and whether he realizes that you love him. Unfortunately, some parents don’t know how to show their love to their children. And in the meantime, the parents' love is very deep and varied in form. Psychologists mark 5 "languages" of parental love, and "speaking" them, parents can show their love to the child fully.
These five languages of parental love were described by family psychologist Gary Chapman. Let’s look at them more closely:
1. Physical contact.
Physical contact between parents and the child is not just kissing, embraces and stroking, but it can bejust a friendly slap on the shoulder, walking by the hand, playful "fight" and more. Physical contact is very important for the children regardless of their gender. Fathers,whohesitate to "coddle" the child, must remember that the absence of the simple physical contact with one of the parentscan have a disastrous influence on the child's mentality in the future. Through the physical contact parents send thepowerfulemotionaland positive chargeto the children.
2. Encouraging words.
Praise your child more often (how to do this right way you can read here). More often tell him that you love him. The words "I love you" addressed to the childhas a good effect to the child's soul. Use fewer critics and offensive words as any of them can hurt the child's heartvery painfully. Even if you are unhappy with the behavior of the child, don’t use offences and sharp rebukes; just explain to the child the cause of your displeasure.
3. Undivided attention.
Spend more time with your child! Moreover, you should not just take the child with yousomewhere and then not to pay attention to him, you should spend a good time with the child above all. It doesn’t matter whether you go with him to the zoo, or just sit on the couch reading a book. Show to the child your interest in his life, ask him questions, but don’t get into all areas of his activity by force; the children should have their little secrets. But remember that common closeness (you are sitting next to the child) is not equal to the emotional bond.
You don’t have to buy the gifts at the store. The child will be delightedeven to a stone from the river, especially if you tell a beautiful story about it. Don’t be lazy and make a beautifulpacking to the gifts, children are reaching out to the beauty and much more sensitive to aesthetics than adults. Don’t focus all your attention on the gifts associated to the major holidays, more often do the unexpected surprises for the child that can be coincide with the positive achievements of the child and present these gifts as a reward.
Parental love can beshowed in the form of help to the child. It can be the household chores and elementarycaring. You will show your love, if you help your child to put up toys in his room. You should not have a distorted face of discontent and grumble that he might have to do everything himself, but you should help himkindly and with pleasure.
Every child needs one language of love is greater than another. Someone loves to hug and sit on your hands, someone loves to get the gifts, and someone can’t live without talk about everythingwith their parents. Whoever your child is, remember that you can show your parental love in 5 different languages, and it is better to use them all.