Do you know how to deal with the child when he is ill?31 October
For children, the illness is more difficult time than for adults. Children's bodies cope with the pain and weakness much easier due to more rapid adaptability. But the child is more susceptible psychologically to the illness situation, and it can be that very mild disease turns into a nightmarefor the child. Adults, who are prescribed to the bed rest, can immerse themselves in their thoughts, fighting against the disease. For the child, who can’t spend a long time in peace and immersion his own thoughts, even 2-3 days of the bed rest may become intolerable torture.
Very often, parents can observe such phenomenon like the exemplary and disciplinable child during illness is "going bad"; he starts to behave shamefully, capricious and vandalize. This may be due to the fact that the child is very activehimself, and he is hard to accept the restrictions that you put on him in order to recuperate his health. If the child is ill seriously, then his moods and irritability are the direct result of illness of the child. You have no choice as to try to mitigate his moods, to soothe the child and todirect all your effortsto the intensive treatment until recovery.
In any case don’t tell anyone near the child or to the child that child’s condition is serious. Some parents believe that the child still doesn’t understand complex medical terms. However, even if complicated words remain incomprehensible to him, he will understand their meaning by your intonation and can sink into despair about his health. Such mindset only prevents the rapid recovery. Be calm with the child, show him your optimism,and make him think that he will recover soon.
Never spoilthe ill child! Some parents confuse adequate care for the ill child with a reason to do him the "center of the universe". These children quickly get it that he feels ill everyone immediately begins to "dance" around him and offer gifts and all kinds of benefits. Sooner or later the child understands that he doesn’t need to be ill actually, and he can just simulate the disease. After several successful simulations starts a vicious circle: the child is supposed to be ill, actually manipulating parents who fulfill his every whim. Such phenomenon in psychology is called the "Infant Complex"; this is aconfluence of the inferiority complex with the desire to use his inferiority to get the benefits.
If your child’s illness is not asseriousas he can’t get out of bed, then make his life as much as close to his common life for the period of illness. Let him play with toys, get ready for school or perform schoolwork. You should consult your doctor before if such activity won’t hurt the child at this stage of recovery.
Play with your child even if he can’t get out of bed. If he has not a contagious disease, you can invite his friends to your home and arrangea little holiday for the children. But don’t do anything extraordinary each day ofthe child’s illness. Try not to overdo. Please, remember that the ill child is the same child as he was before illness. But anyway the child should feel a special position: the position of someone who is in need of the parentssupport. The child needs your support in particular, and not to be overpraised, and much less not the strict medical drill with a long list of prohibitions and restrictions.